Thank you notes are a lovely way to express gratitude to guests who came to your wedding (or even those who couldn’t make it), especially if they’ve honoured you with a gift. Many couples choose to say “thank you” through a card, whether that’s handwritten or pre-written and finished with a personalised, heartfelt message. So, here’s our guide on what to write in a thank you card.
For more on wedding stationery wording, check out our guide on choosing the right wording for your wedding invitations.
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There are many ways you can go about writing your thank you cards, and to help you navigate we’ve split this guide up into the thank you notes you can write to guests who brought gifts (as well as a breakdown of the types of gifts), those who didn’t, thank you notes addressed to who exactly gave you the gift, and thank you notes for people who have helped you out for one thing or another.
Thank you Notes For People Who Gave You a Gift
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Types of Gifts
When writing your thank you cards a good place to start is with what the gift was and how much you like it—tell the gift giver how much you appreciate it and their thoughtfulness, and tell them what you have used/will use the gift for.
Thank You Notes for General Gifts
Thank You Notes for Money and Gift Cards
Money and gift cards as gifts are growing more popular, as it allows the gift receiver to spend it on what they want instead of receiving something they might not need. When writing a thank you card for these gifts, you don’t have to mention the amount given unless you want to.
Thank You Notes for If It’s a Group Gift
Thank You Notes for When You Don’t Know What the Gift Is
Thank You Notes for When You Don’t Like the Gift/ It Wasn’t on Your Gift List
Sometimes couples receive gifts that they’re not keen on, but it’s still polite to be grateful and to thank the gift-giver for it. And you never know—you may even find something positive in the gift.
(Note: to reduce the risk of receiving something they don’t need or want, or even to avoid receiving the same thing from different people, many couples create a gift list. It’s more like a guide for the guests who are planning on giving a gift (it isn’t a demand for one) as it helps them see what would actually be useful/interesting for the couple, but of course sometimes people ignore the gift list.)
Thank You Notes for Guests Who Didn’t Bring a Wedding Gift
Guests are, of course, under no obligation to give you a wedding gift. But you can still thank them for attending!
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Thank You Notes For Different Types of Guests
Naturally, you may find that you want to write more personal thank you notes to the people you know well, such as parents or siblings, and give less information to more distant friends and/or relatives. Furthermore, you may have received gifts from people who didn’t attend your wedding.
Thank You Notes for Those Who Attended Your Wedding and Gave You a Gift
Parents or In-Laws
Thank You Notes for Close Friends or Relatives
Thank You Notes for Distant Friends or Relatives
Thank You Notes for Guests Who Weren’t Able to Attend Your Wedding But Sent a Present
Thank You Notes for People Who Gave a Gift But Weren’t Invited
Thank You Notes to Thank People For Their Help
Parents, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and all manner of people often have a big hand in the wedding planning process, so it makes sense that you want to include a line in your thank you notes to say thank you for their hard work and contribution. You may even want to thank one of your wedding suppliers, such as your photographer or venue, for their steller service.
Ending Your Thank You Notes
Finish off your notes with a last little “thank you”.
Confetti’s Top Thank You Note Tip
Some couples have dozens of thank you notes to write after their wedding while others may have hundreds. You can sit down and write them all in one if you feel you can, but this increases the risk of your respones becoming robotic and formulaic instead of being unique and genuine. We recommend that you complete your thank you notes in short bursts of 10 or so per day instead of taking an entire day to do over 100. Furthermore, while it’s best to get your thank you notes out as soon as possible after the wedding, don’t rush through them. If you have to take a bit more time, that’s fine!
For more on saying “thank you”, look here for some original ways to thank your wedding guests.